Grief and Handling the Holidays

  There’s really no tried and true way of “handling the holidays” after the death of someone you love.  I remember some details of the first Christmas after my dad died suddenly vividly – but most of the holiday is murky.  We muddled through and soldiered on.  I ran across this article in a publication […]

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Scariest Pre-Planning Presentation, Ever.

A few years ago, I joined a group called Winnebago Buy Local.  They are huge proponents of conducting business with the people that live and work in our community.  Since my involvement with that organization, I’ve made conscious decisions to purchase as much as I can from local business owners.  Whether it’s a meal out, […]

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Why Was My Grandma In A Cardboard Box?

Why was my grandma in a cardboard box?  Social media has opened up channels of communication that never existed before.  Recently, a facebook friend tagged me in a post and was questioning why her grandma was in a cardboard box for the private family viewing members of her family arranged. She was upset and aghast […]

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Importance of Hosting a Funeral Service/Memorial Service/Celebration of Life

  I hate it when families decide not to have a funeral or memorial service.   Let me repeat – I hate it.  I’m all for honoring the wishes of the deceased, and staying within an allocated budget.  I hear you, I really do, and I’m listening to you when you make your prearrangement, and you […]

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Life and Death of the Best Dog Ever

On the first day of spring, we said goodbye to the best dog ever.  Sasquatch was a collie/terrier mix. Colors of a collie – scruff of a terrier.  We adopted her while we were in college.  I had visions of her romping on beaches and swimming at the spillway in Southern Illinois, but she wasn’t […]

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Things I Never Learned in Mortuary School

In mortuary school, we learned useful things like the names of the organs, muscles and bones. We learned how to wear appropriate clothing to work in a funeral home (duh), and how to tell families about the features and benefits of different caskets and burial vaults. We practiced applying makeup, and restoring skulls and parts […]

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Will Your Kids Be Funeral Directors?

This is a question that we get asked all the time.  It makes us both chuckle.  For the record, our kids are 11, 7, and 5.  Here’s a little bit of history about me and my husband, Bob.  We didn’t grow up in funeral families.  My dad was an attorney and my mom was a […]

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One Day I Got Bored & Planned My Own Funeral

I was thinking one day at work that I really needed to get some on my own affairs in order, that it’d be a good idea to plan my own funeral.  I know what it’s like when someone dies and their only survivors are men.  I am surrounded by men.  Men that make funeral arrangements […]

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It Doesn’t Seem Like a Funeral Home

I get it, it doesn’t seem like my funeral home should be where it is.  It’s in a former retail space in a mall in our community.  We rent space from a local church.  From the outside, it doesn’t look all that impressive.  If you just do a drive by, it probably looks pretty small […]

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“Have you met the new girl undertaker?”

Well, here I am about to start this whole blogging journey.  Fun times.  People who know me well, know that I have a lot to say.  I’ll start by explaining the whole Girl Undertaker title of the blog.  When I graduated from mortuary school (yes, we actually have to go to school to do this […]

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